Specialty Service
Domestic Violence Therapy
Accountability without shame. Change without excuses. Real work for people who are ready to stop hurting the people they care about.
Available throughout California via secure online sessions.
If You or Someone You Know Is in Immediate Danger
If there is immediate danger, please seek emergency help.
- Emergency: Call 911
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988
- National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788
Therapy focuses on long-term behavior change. It is not a crisis service.
Why People Seek Help for Domestic Violence
People usually arrive here in one of three ways.
Sometimes a partner, family member, or someone close has made it clear that something has to change. Sometimes the legal system requires it. And sometimes people reach a point where they know their behavior isn't who they want to be.
However someone arrives, the important question is what happens next.
Being told your behavior is abusive or harmful is difficult to hear. Many people instinctively want to explain what happened or why the situation escalated. Context matters — but it doesn't change the impact.
Real change begins when we look honestly at the pattern and take responsibility for interrupting it.
Recognizing the Pattern
Domestic violence rarely appears out of nowhere. It usually follows a cycle:
tension builds → conflict escalates → harm occurs → remorse and reconciliation → tension builds again.
Over time, that cycle can speed up.
Violence can include physical harm, but it also includes patterns such as:
- intimidation or threats
- controlling a partner's movements or relationships
- financial control
- humiliation, criticism, or emotional abuse
These patterns damage relationships deeply and can affect children who grow up around them.
The goal of therapy is to stop the cycle before it escalates again.
What Changes in Therapy
In therapy we begin by understanding what happens internally when conflict escalates.
What happens in your body.
What thoughts show up.
What reactions start building before the moment things cross the line.
Once those patterns are visible, we work on interrupting them.
That includes:
- recognizing escalation early
- learning real de-escalation skills
- creating space before conflict turns harmful
- building communication that doesn't rely on intimidation or control
This work changes both behavior and the internal reactions driving it.
My Approach
This work requires both accountability and respect.
You will not be shamed here. But the impact of harmful behavior will not be minimized either.
Real change happens when someone can be treated with dignity while still being fully responsible for their actions.
I work with both court-mandated clients and people who seek therapy on their own. What matters most is the willingness to do real work and to stay honest about what needs to change.
What to Expect
The first session is a straightforward conversation about your situation and what has brought you here.
We'll talk about the patterns you're dealing with and what you want to change. You'll also get a sense of how I work so you can decide if it feels like the right fit.
Sessions take place through secure video and are available to clients anywhere in California.
For court-mandated clients, documentation of attendance and progress can be provided when required.
Ready to do the work?
Change is possible. It requires work — real work, not just attendance. Start with a free 15-minute consultation.
Schedule a 15-Minute Consultation